Finding True Love in the Age of Inspiration

To the millennials and all generations following: You are my new favorite humans and I want to thank you for coming to earth. You are here to usher in the ascension. This is a noble feat. I love you all and I am grateful for you.

This is the first blog I have written in four years, and not only have I grown, but the world has changed in both positive and negative ways. We are waking up to the truth. The lines are being drawn and transparency is the new normal. I too come to you with openness with all I know and all I hope to share as I continue to study about love. We are all a work-in-progress. 

In the history of the world, it seems like only a minute has passed since we've gone from the Dark Ages to the Information Ages before landing in the Inspiration Age. In this new dispensation of the Inspiration Age, I have a strong feeling that we are on the cusp of an amazing awakening, and that those who are willing will bring "Heaven on Earth." Although the physical world itself will definitely be affected, it is in the innermost part of ourselves that will be transformed most. Nowhere will this be more apparent than in the conscious arrival of truth and love. Nowhere will we see more differences than in throws of romance.

The veil is being lifted and all that is fake is finally getting exposed for all of humanity to see; the space for truth can now breathe and grow and transform all of life. Romantic love is especially being called out, as that is where life is formed from. This is the core from which multi-generational dysfunction and trauma thrives. The most important challenges and lessons about romance and intimacy are born within the sacred walls of well-intentioned homes. The first chapter of your life is where the most emotional healing is needed so true love and joy can take root and grow.

With all of its positive and negative attributes, the Age of Technology is instrumental to unmasking fake passion, counterfeit sex, and illusions of commitment. Never before has it been easier to stray. Dating apps offer an array of temptations right from the privacy of your home. Flirting, cheating, and hooking up is only a swipe away. Lovers from the past often reappear, reminding us of the thrill of youth.

What does this mean? I just want the love.

In short, having big breasts and sleeping with a guy won't guarantee that you "win" him. Expensive houses and extravagant lifestyles will not cement two miserable hearts beating oceans away. At long last, society is becoming immune to the sorts of games and gimmicks we once used to win the prize of our desires. The masters of manipulation are being driven out. The light is shining brighter and people are running from both themselves and others. Lies are being exposed and shit is about to get real. All of this is necessary and is in your best interest if you choose to step away from the 3D life in which we are accustomed.

So, you may ask: "How do I find true love if not with a little help from stilettos or a hot car?"

Never fear, true love in the Inspiration Age will be more than we can possibly imagine. Poets themselves will bow their heads in shame that they have missed the mark with words that can't even come close to what they now see. It is the cornerstone of all we are or long to be. It will arrive for those who are ready to leave the reality of sight and touch. Many are already awake, aware, and filled with inner joy—ready to move forward emotionally. I suspect in the future there may not be as many marriages in the traditional way, but the ones we do see will outshine and show us a glorious demonstration of what "happily every after" is.

The Four Steps Needed to Finding True Love in This New Era

Step One: Seeing

The first step to inviting the true love you desire and deserve takes becoming absolutely truthful to yourself. It will be as uncomfortable as jumping into a pool on a chilly autumn morning. The first step of seeing is always the toughest, like breaking in a new pair of shoes. It takes a while. And then, the magical spell is finally broken and Sleeping Beauty finally wakes up and sees who her true love for the first time. The clock has struck midnight and you now have a choice to stop living the dream you've been taught to have. As humans, we all have drunk the Kool-Aid and bought into false beliefs that say it's okay to hide your darkness. In this masquerade, you are not alone. There is an entire cast joining in with you, showering you in support for your self-loathing. We call it support. I call it 3D-enabling, or the ego gone wild. We lie to ourselves thinking: "It's okay to pretend and play a role—everyone does, and a few glasses of wine can make it easier to continue and face tomorrow." Eventually, the story is told so many times that it actually becomes reality. With the witty brilliance of the law of attraction, we reinforce it, manifesting more to keep it alive. The lie has become your gospel. A new perspective is all that is needed for this divine miracle. Take off the blinders; this is your race to win. Look back and see the lies you're leaving behind in the dust. 

Step Two: Accepting

Step two is learning to accept what you have seen. This stage involves evoking hope and faith to release the tears—and maybe a pillow to hit—as your reintroduce yourself to your soulful self. Marinate in it as long as necessary. This is the longest and most profound step towards connecting with your higher self, a.k.a. your soul. But, it actually takes seeing what your pain has to say before letting it in. It might take a very long time, and on some level the pain never quite stops. We are constantly learning as we ascend to higher levels of understanding and energy frequencies. However, if you persist and clear the cobwebs, regret slowly gets wiped away. Dig deeper, and the tunnel vision of your childlikeness gets softened into a new perspective. Thoughts of low self-worth are dissolved into smiling at yourself in the mirror. The anger towards people that hurt you slides into forgiveness. The belief you are a mess morphs into deep insight and peace about your personal story. This is the most important adventure of your life. Follow the road, bypassing the ghosts and goblins down to your inner core. Take breaks and walk away, returning to it after your mind and body has had a chance to rest and digest it all. There is no time limit to finding your soulful self. After all, it's been there all along. It is your true self.

Step Three: Loving

Step Three is finally remembering who you are and actually loving yourself. See, the truth is, you are a soul here on earth in human form, and through experience, you and others have learned certain lessons. There are no mistakes. It is no one's fault. You are in synchronicity at all times and loved. When you get this deep down inside yourself, the magic starts. Now you can embrace all of your story with new eyes and realize how magnificent you are just for coming here to attempt and experience all that you have. You then will see how powerful and loved you are, and that there is no room left for low self-worth. To deny your splendor would be a sin, denying the great source that made you and is part of you. You have made mistakes, but you came to learn. It is now time to join and get to know your dearest partner—your soulful self, with acceptance and love for yourself, others that have come to help you ascend, and the blessing of being alive at this time.

Step Four: Finding Love

Finally you are ready. You are truthful with yourself. You've brought the monsters and frightening aspects of your history out into the light. But now you see the story of YOU through the eyes of love and acceptance. You are ready to find true love because you finally love yourself. You love all of your parts and hide none of them, nor do you feel guilty for mistakes or have fear about revealing yourself to someone you're interested in getting to know better. You are whole; not a loner dancing out of beat with your own feelings. You are free from the darkness that no longer exists. Your soulful self and you have melted it out in the sunlight.

To experience mutual true love, however, your partner needs to be awakened themselves, also cleansing themselves of all of the crap they've gathered along the way to the here and now. This doesn't mean that you can't love someone who isn't at that point in their lives. What it means is that they will still have issues and more inner work to do, which is their responsibility. Remember that there are no mistakes in the universe and that each person comes to us to learn together. Nothing is truly a failure. Regret nothing. If love comes knocking, follow it. But know that it is not your job to instruct or change someone. It is an impossible task, anyway, and will only cause you and your partner devolve into an invisible war. This is a self-help journey. Guideposts help, but each of us need to do the work as individuals. Be a guidepost, but realize that modeling behavior through love and giving your partner the freedom to be whatever or wherever they have to be in their journey is the greatest gift you can offer.

Here's to love. I believe in it and I know it's out there. I love you and I see your true value as a beautiful being made of light and perfection. God does not make mistakes.

May my words bless and touch your soul so you remember your value and worth.

As it is above, so shall it be below.

Love always,

April Lynn Kirkwood, M.Ed., LPC